Wednesday 16 November 2011

MASTURBATION AND PORNOGRAPHY



The menace that is eating deeply into our society and must have to be dealt with seriously!

The menace I am referring to here is “masturbation and pornography”.
Masturbation means stroke genitals that is to give yourself or somebody else sexual pleasure by stroking the genitals, usually to orgasm. To masturbate means to rub or touch the sex organs of (yourself or someone else) for sexual pleasure. (American English Dictionary).

Pornography is any films, magazines, writings, photographs, or other materials that are sexually explicit and intended to cause sexual arousal. On the other hand, it can be pictures that show or describe sexual acts or naked people for the purpose of exciting people sexually and usually for no other purpose. . (American English Dictionary).

Masturbation is no doubt rampart in our society today. This silent and chronic menace is no doubt eating deeply in the lives of youth today. Research has shown that most of the youth are seriously into masturbation, pornography, per-marital sex, homosexuality and lesbianism and feel okay. They engage in it and thereby living in curses unknowingly. But I will dwell on Masturbation and pornography.

Masturbation and pornography are twin brothers and are causing serious problem to the youths out there.

It is quite certain that some of us (youth) are struggling with it unknowingly, while there are some that really want to come out but don’t know how? Worse still, there are some that don’t want to come out, who become slaves to it. The good news is that, whatever category you belong, there is always a way out.

How to know you are a victim of Masturbation and Pornography

If you like or even find fulfillment sexually in watching things or involving in things that is always arousing your sexual ego is the sign that you are suffering with masturbation and pornography.

Effects of Masturbation and Pornography
These of course have a negative effect on its victims. There are many effects, below are some of them:
1.         Low sperm count: This means that victims always find it difficult to satisfy their wives or husbands when they married. Instead of finding pleasure in having sex with their spouse and enjoy their marriages. The implication is that this mostly causes high rate of separation or divorce in marriages today. Sex is very important in marriage and the major thing that bind couples together. The saddest thing is the one creating crisis in our homes today. Our homes is suppose to a resting place, place where we can find peace, joy and ease from all the stress we have got from outside, not to add to our stress.
2.         Low self esteem: Self esteem has do with self image that is how one look at his/herself. In order word, it is the value one place on his/herself. People suffering from masturbation or pornography most times have low self esteem, they also appear guilty, and they limit themselves to a certain level in life. Life is meant to be enjoyed and God created us with purpose and nothing is supposed to stop us from achieving that purpose.
3.         Emotional trauma: This has to with a stage of being in distress, pain, disturbance, upset, etc that deliberately comes to someone that engages in illicit act. People suffering from masturbation and pornography thought that indulging in it, is the best way of overcoming loneliness, but that’s not true. Truth is that it worsens the feel of loneliness. Life itself sometimes can bring pains to us as long as we’re living, because of the unforeseen circumstances that we find ourselves but it is meant to groom, build and equip us in order to be great and impact our world positively, not the kind of pains that will torment us which comes from masturbation and pornography.
            Others may include: lack of peace, sense of guilt all the time.

This Menace has no doubt created lots of problems to the youth and is stopping them from moving forward in life. This has also put some of us in dungeon and makes us belief the lie that we cannot come out of it or live as free people and enjoy life to the fullest. 

How to be free from it
Whether we like it or not, we must have to know that, this is a cancan worm and it has to be dealt with. It will interest you to know that this is found even in the home, school, church and mosque and anywhere we can think of in our society today. You know what? These has also created a problem between us and our elders who are in power, they don’t want to give way for us to take over from them. Why? Truth is that the elders are afraid of the kind of legacies that the youths will pass on to the younger ones considering the kind of illicit act they (youth) are engaging in. They are afraid of the kind of worthless and way-worth leaders that will mount into leadership. No wonder they don’t want to give way for us.

Time has come for the youths to prove them wrong, to show them that we are capable and qualify to take over from them. To give them a sense of relieve that there is nothing to worry about how the future will be, because we are now a wonderful, vibrant, visionary youth that will bring a great change to our country if even a chance. To show them that yes indeed! We are ready to face any challenges of life and overcome it, that we are now a responsible people with bright future for the growth and development of our country.

How can this be?
First of all, we must accept the fact that this menace is right within us and that most of us are struggling with it and are dying in silence. We must accept that we have a problem that needs urgent solution.

Secondly, you cannot be free from the power of masturbation and pornography when you remain in hidden, secret places and closed doors. So, for the victims out there, the sure way of coming out is to speak out, is to be open and look for help. The joy is that you can be helped. There are lots and lots of great and trained Counselors out there who can help you to come out of it. Don’t be shy, run to them and they will be willing to help. I know of people like Innocent Usar, Praise Fowowe and others, whom you can find on facebook. This is the right time, don’t die in silence, be open and you will find help. It is very possible to come out of masturbation and pornography.

The youth are said to be the bread winner of any society. Any society that lacks youth in her midst is bound to collapse, because there will be no future for that society to remain in existence. What kinds of activities do you as a young person engages in right now? What are the things you surround yourself with now? Whatever you do today will be the outcome of what you will give out to this generation (garbage in, garbage out) now or tomorrow. So, let us do away with any vices that will tarnish our image and damage our bright future. Let us engage ourselves in ‘PRODUCTIVE THINGS’ that will shape and make us great leaders tomorrow.

Let us not forgive that this and the next generations are looking to us for a great change in our society. Let us not disappoint them!

You can send in your comments to encourage someone out there, please.



With love,
Ruthy